Feedback Strategies

You must persist despite setbacks (image source from cheezburger)

The article, How to Give Feedback Without Sounding Like aJerk, gave great advice on how to not sound rude. When I give feedback, I usually speak my mind and it can sound rude but I’m not actually trying to be rude. There are some good tips in this article that I could use when giving feedback. First off, I could start off with giving a positive feedback then explaining my concerns. I just need to be transparent when giving feedback. It is recommended to point out the problem exactly and not beat around the bush so we’re not rambling. Rambling can be very negative and offensive. Also, usually when people give feedback, they are supposed to ask if that person wants feedback. Since we are required to give feedback, we could always open our sentences in a kindly manner so they’re not as defensive. 

Feedforward is the best option when getting criticism. In the article, Try Feedforward Instead of Feedback, talks about feedforward is more efficient and useful than feedback. Instead of trying to be nitpick about things, I could explain how to make it more successful. For example, I could tell them “Here are some ideas for the future! Please try to accept my comments in a positive way but disregard it if you do not think it applies”. When giving feedback, it tends to be very defensive and them wanting to be prove how they are right, and I am wrong. So, if I come to it in a positive way, they would most likely take my advice into consideration.

Getting feedback or giving feedback or feedforward can always be frustrating. Mostly when I get feedback or I give feedback because I feel like I can be wrong. I can never actually understand peoples train of thought because we all process differently. 

Topic Research

King Dasharatha grieving at his obligation to exile Rama (image source from Wikipedia)

Dasharatha

Dasharatha was known to be the son of Princess Indumati and King Aja. He eventually became king when both his parents died. He had three wives during his life- Kausalya, Kaikeyi, and Sumitra. The story of Dasharatha mistakenly killing Shravan Kumara is a good example of karma. He went hunting and thought he heard a deer drinking water, but it ended up being a young boy trying to get a pitcher of water for his parents. Dasharatha shot him with an arrow through his chest and was completely mortified. This just exemplify karma for wanting to shoot or kill anything that is outside. Needing to be more aware what was around him before he assumed.

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Rama and Sita

Rama is a deity and one of the most popular incarnations. The story of Rama and Shurpanakha is another example of karma. For 10 years, Rama was wandering and came upon Shurpanakha, known as a demoness. She was deeply captivated with Rama, so she tried to seduce him but he rejected her. So, she tried to get back by threatening Sita. The younger brother, Lakshmana, retaliated back by cutting off her nose and ears. Ravana, the demon king brother of Shurpanakha, kidnapped Sita and became attracted to her. Once Rama and Lakshmana discovered Sita was kidnapped, they traveled far to find Sita. While Sita was kidnapped, she was forced to be a concubine and constantly harassed, but she constantly refused him. Rama finds Sita and Ravana and kills him then rescued his wife. The story relays to karma for Ravana and Shurpanakha, knowing nothing good will come out of it for being ruthless.

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Kaikeyi

She was one of the wives of Dasharatha’s with their son, Bharata. During that time, Rama, son of Kausalya and Dasharatha, he was going to be crowned king. She was thrilled with excitement because it could have been her son too, but Manthara, her nurse, got into her head. Manthara was worried that Kaikeyi would be degraded and lose her status as Chief Queen at court when Rama became King. She constantly reminded Kaikeyi and wanted her to be fueled with jealousy and hate. Eventually, she caved in and gave into jealously. Kaikeyi demanded Bharata to be crowned King and Rama sent to exile for 14 years. When Dasharatha heard of these demands, he immediately passed out. After sending his son to exile, he was filled with grief and a broken heart then he died. In the end, Kaikeyi lost it all. Bharata blamed his mother for his father’s death and swore to never ascend the throne because it was Rama’s fate.

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Week 3 Story: Grudle

Tumbara (image source from Wikipedia) 

Jusa and Cayden were twin brothers, both known as fiercest warriors from their village called the Caidmens. Growing up in the Caidmens and being raised by the village, helped them become warriors of their village to provide maximal protection. At the age of 12, they lost their parents to a monster named Grudle.

The village had a very prominent army of warriors. The toughest of the tough. The bravest of the brave. The tallest wall to protect them from anything.

At the age of 12, Jusa and Cayden were playing outside of the village borders without their parents knowing.  As the parents were searching for their kids, they came in contact with Grudle. He was this most disgusting, blood sucking, cheetah skinned human eater. What was crazy that he was known to be a myth. They never expected to see a man eater in real life.

Grudle saw the man and woman wandering outside the village and abducted them. He ran straight to the bushes with them to be skinned alive.

The kids heard noises around the bush and saw Grudle eat their parents alive. They were completely terrified and ran back to the village to save their lives.

Jusa and Cayden warned the villagers but knew there was nothing they could have done but to become the strongest warriors to kill Grudle.

12 years later, they were on the hunt of this ferocious beast that killed their parents as a kid. They heard rumors that Grudle was 75 miles north from their village, so they began to hunt.

The hunt took 2 years to find Grudle because he was everywhere. They finally spotted him. He was near this small village where this family was prepping dinner. They had a small pit of fire lit to keep the monsters away. Jusa threw his spear at Grudle, hoping it’ll aim at his heart, but it aimed at his arm. Grudle did not bleed nor was he injured. Cayden shot an arrow straight to his chest and there was still no blood shed. No object could have harmed him. 

Grudle spotted Jusa and Cayden and attacked them. He had the brothers twisted and locked up in both his arms, by the neck. He was so strong that it felt impossible for the brothers to injure him. Grudle explains “No object can kill me. No harm can ever come to me because I am immortal. You are wasting your time and life”.

Cayden eventually slipped out and decided to shoot him with an arrow with fire. It aimed straight to his chest and he screamed. Grudle did not expect to ever feel pain, but he did. He never realized fire was his weakness. Jusa got his spear and lit it with fire to aim at his heart. His body was slowly scorching on fire.

The brothers threw the monsters into the pit of fire. He was a demon that needed to be sent straight back to hell.

Authors note: The story I used was Ramayanha: Viradha. He was this nasty beast that ate live flesh to stay alive. He abducted Sita and was killed by Rama and Lakshmana. The beast could not have been harmed by any object, but could be injured by ripping his body apart. Rama killed him and threw him in the pits to suffer. Little did they know, he was a Tumburu, a gandharva that was cursed to be living in Viradha's body. It was his faith to be killed by Rama and have his soul released into heaven. 

"Ramayana: Viradha" by Manmatha Nath Dutt. Website: Blogspot